changed my life forever without doing anything
For a long time I had, a major problem. And at one point it got so bad that my life came to a complete stop.
And then I fixed that problem and after that my life forever changed. And the same thing can happen to you.
In life, we come across so many opportunities and things that could dramatically change our situation. And for some of us, it was that girl that looked at us like, we were the last piece of chicken in the bucket.
And for others, it was a job or similar financial opportunity. These opportunities appear for just a split second and then they’re gone in the blink of an eye.
And when I would come across it. In my gut, I knew that I should have acted on them.
One of the biggest mistakes that we make in life and one that I used to make all-time is overthinking. So many of the greatest opportunities in my life fell into my lap after I stopped overthinking everything.
Everything one of us will face many small problems throughout our life. And in many situations, it’s not what we do that matters the most. But how quickly we do it.
So many of us take a small problem and overthink it to the point that it became a huge monster of a problem. It’s like when we were younger and our parents caught us lying.
And instead of just telling the truth we started overthinking and came up with some elaborate lie to cover up what we did. Effectively turning a little problem into a huge one.
Imagine you are about to talk to the girl that you’ve always had a crush on. And right before you do it. You think to your self what if she says no or what if her friends laugh at me in front of her. Eventually, you end up talking yourself out of it completely.
And some other guy swoops in and does what you should have done and she end up liking him instead of you.
Many situations in life really are as simple as the early bird gets the worm. And the earliest bird is the one who doesn’t overthink everything.
Overthinking can literally cause us to turn positive things for opportunities and to things that are negative.
As humans, one of our greatest gifts, and you could argue our most powerful asset is our mind. All of mankind’s greatest discoveries and accomplishments are directly linked to the power of our minds.
And our ability to imagine things before they happen. But what nobody ever told you, is that all of our greatest blunders or failures are also the result of our mind.
And more specifically being too much inside of it. Now the latest science tells us that overthinking increases our risk for mental illness.
Interferes with problem-solving and it can even have an impact on our sleep. One of the most common situations, when we overthink something, is after we make a mistake.
And after we make that mistake we asked ourselves. What went wrong? But then the overthinking never actually stops.
Every single one of us is stuck inside of our homes right now. Most likely stressing out about how we’re going to pay the bills and stuff like that. So as we sit here with too much time on our hands. Most of us are completely in our heads.
Most likely thinking about all kinds of negative things. And our mind is our greatest asset and at the same time, it can be our greatest weakness.
And our minds hold great power that we must make sure that we are using responsibly.
Something really curious is that in prisons the greatest punishment that they can give them in its. Not taking away his good or punishing him even physically. The greatest punishment that can be given to a man in prison is something called solitary confinement.
Which is basically where he is put in a dark room. Where he is basically left completely alone with nothing. But his own thoughts what we’re thinking is like a form of torture.
That we inflict on ourselves without even realizing it. He truly is that some things in life do require a ton of thinking. And an example of this was putting a man on the moon. There are so many great problems out there that need to be solved.
Regarding physics and other things about the world that we live in. And these problems definitely require a lot of thought from a lot of different minds.
But overthinking by definition is a matter of thinking too much about something that doesn’t require that much thought.
It’s kind of like using a flame thrower to kill a fly. What I used to do constantly and unintentionally was look for things that weren’t there.
I would go to an interview for a job and the manager would say something to me that seemed odd and I would spend days trying to figure out. What they meant by it.
And usually, I would attach it to something negative. A common example of overthinking is imagining all of the ways that something could go wrong. Such as right before we ask a girl out.
And after thinking of all the things that could go wrong. We talk ourselves out of doing something that we really needed to do.
Or we avoid an opportunity that could have given us a huge reward in our life. Overthinking is usually born out of fear or the fear of what might happen.
If we talk to that girl that we like or the fear of what might happen. If we seize the opportunity that’s right in front of us.
So here is how I stopped overthinking and how it forever changed my life. And how you can do it too for me personally. The times when I end up overthinking the most is normally when I’m fearful of something.
So overthinking is really just an endless loop of what-if thinking. But it can also happen when we try to find a deeper meaning to things that do not have one.
Sometimes we ask a girl out and she tells us that she already has a boyfriend. So many guys might start overthinking this response. And asking themselves if she really does and if she doesn’t then why did she turn them down? And then this leads into an endless loop of unnecessary thinking.
Not realizing that she really does have a boyfriend. And that really was the reason why she said that many times tend to overthink things. And we look for some hidden meaning in something that isn’t there.
And as paradoxical as it sounds- stops over thinking you have to think about and recognize when you’re overthinking to stop yourself from actually doing it. If an opportunity happens to fall into your lap.
And it seems like a really good thing gives it a little bit of thought and then either do it immediately. Or just stop thinking about it.
When it comes to mundane stuff like things other people do or say most of the time there isn’t some supper hidden meaning. That needs to be uncovered and it’s better to just not give it much thought.
And this is especially important to do when somebody rejects you. Or says something that’s really mean or when somebody just simply doesn’t like you. So that was the best remedy to overthinking is to stop thinking and just do it.
Once I stopped overthinking my life changed forever. And no matter what’s going on in the world right now with a little bit of practice. You can turn your own mind into your greatest ally rather than your greatest weakness.
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