Only high-value men can do this in there life
If you do this one thing. I promise you that you will always be average.
Several years ago, I had reached the point where I wanted something different in life. And during this time, I was tired of being broke. And I was tired of always finishing in tenth place.
Now many of you reading this right now. Feel the way that I felt many years ago and it’s not a fun way to live….
Most of us lie to ourselves. When weird a situation like this. Because we don’t want to face the truth and we don’t want to face our shortcomings.
So one day we make a choice to change. A famous quote once said
I mentioned in a previous blog that we are like water.
And what this means is that people can change. Based on the environment that they are in. Imagine you start a job like something that you’d see the deadliest catch. Which is a deep-sea fishing ship?
While you’re out on the boat. All the guys that you work with are smoking. And when you first start the job.
It’s easy to tell them no. When they offer you a smoke. But then as time goes by remember. We are like water so you start to become shaped by your environment.
And eventually, you start smoking because everyone else you work with is doing it. And it ends up serving as a way to relieve stress. While you’re on the job.
This is an example of how our environment shapes us. But it’s not just our environment that shapes us. It’s the people in that environment as well.
Many men on their way to success or on their journey to bettering themselves. Start out with a group of close friends that they have known pretty much their entire life.
And it always goes a little something like this. First, you mentioned to them the idea, that you’re tired of being broke and unhappy and unattractive. And you tell them how you plan on changing these things.
Such as getting a high paying job and at first, they tell you that yeah it’s a great idea. So you start your journey and then you get a little bit of success and your friends seem to be truthful and then you start to see a lot of success.
And eventually those friends of yours well they aren’t really your friends anymore. And part of it that they indeed. And what you’ve done for yourself and the other part is that they’re just not ready yet themselves.
But you’ve been friends with these guys. Forever so you don’t want to just erase those relationships and act like they never existed.
So you continue to spend time around them even though. They’re bitter towards you and you try to challenge them to do better for themselves. And every minute that you spend around them. You find that you start to lose interest in your won dreams.
And the things that you want to accomplish. Remember we are all like water so the question that you have to ask yourself. Is what cup do I want to be in?
A big change like what we’re seeing in the world right now. Brings out the best in people. But it also brings out the worst and many of us. And even when we’re not going through huge changes like this. There are some people out there who are very unhappy with their lives and themselves. And most of them are not bad people. They’re just not ready to face it yet.
And since we are all like water. Other people rub off on us. Many times when we least expect it. Like when we’re on a boat in the middle of the ocean.
So many people are like the metaphorical crab in the bucket. Then even if they don’t consciously try to pull you back in. Oftentimes they do so unknowingly or indirectly.
If you hang around a bunch of losers. Then you will most likely become a loser yourself. If all of your friends are happy living an average life. That’s fine that’s their choice.
But if they all want to live an average and you’re somebody who wants to reach for the stars and chase your dreams. Then you have to move away from the things that are going to stop you from achieving those goals.
Whatever I spent time around negative people. I notice that I quickly start to become negative myself. When I spend too much time around people who have no ambition in life. I start to feel lazy myself.
And when I spend my time around people who have big dreams and who actually want to chase them. I find it much easier to wake up every day and go after my own dreams. Sometimes we have to make a very tough decision because, on the one hand, we have our dreams and goals.
And the impact that we want to make in the world. And on the other hand, we have many of our friends, who we grew up with? Who doesn’t really seem to want to do anything?
And we don’t know always have to completely eliminate them as friends. But what we have to do is dramatically reduce the amount of time that we spin around it. Remember it’s not who you spend your time around that makes you become like them.
It is who you spend most of your time around sometimes. We have to just walk away from people that we’ve known for many years.
Because they’re like teen metaphorical crabs in the bucket. Even if they don’t mean to be and in many situations, we even have family members who end up. Doing the same thing, in fact, it’s often people in our own family or those that are closest to us who hurt us the most.
When we are trying to climb and achieve our goals. The reality is that some people just want to live an average and they’re just not ready for anything different.
And it’s nothing personal against them. It’s just that people mainly your friends can hold you back from achieving your goals and bettering yourself.
And since we are all like water. We have to choose what cup or what environment that we want to spend most of our time in. And if your friends want to throw rocks at cars or spend all the time at the bar.
When they get off of work every day. That’s their choice but don’t let them directly or indirectly hold you back from achieving what you want to achieve.
Because men who do this. Will always be average make sure that on your journey to improving yourself in achieving all the things that you want to achieve in life. So That you are surrounding yourself with the right people. And until next time thanks for reading.
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