The most “alpha” way to handle conflict
Most people in the world are good people. But at some point, you’re going to come across those who are not. And there will be times when other men disrespect you.
And you will need to handle the situation in the right way. Now one of the most important things that set average men apart from men who are not so average.
Is in the way that they handle conflict. Many men are terrified of conflict because it’s precisely what shows a man’s true character. Conflict shines a bright light on the aspect of our character.
Those are normally hidden from view. And if you’re getting a bunch of skeletons in your closet. So to speak than people are going to see those.
And they’re going to see your true character. Now when it comes to handling conflict most guys fall into one of two types of men.
And the first type, which is also the most common is the passive type of man. With the guy who gets disrespected all the time. And never does anything about it. Being passive will cause you to get bullied.
And really awful people will constantly take advantage of you. The real problem with being passive, Is that it tells everyone around you. That you are the type of guy who does not need to be respected.
And that’s a really bad look for any man. Being passive traditionally is not a man’s role. And men are typically expected to be the opposite of passive. This leads us to the second type of men.
Men who are not passive or those in the second group are men who are assertive. And one of the most unattractive things that a man can do is to be passive.
Imagine you’re sitting down somewhere. And a guy walks by any he steps on your brand new shoes. And since the shoes are white, they got scuffed pretty good. So the guy just put you in a situation.
Where you don’t really have a choice. But to say something. Many guys in this situation will simply let it happen, and do or say nothing about it.
Whenever you’re faced with conflict. The most powerful thing that you can do is to simply speak up. Throughout life, many people will try to disrespect you or take advantage of you.
And you will get into many situations similar to somebody stepping on your new shoes. And how you handle these situations will determine not just how others view them. But more importantly how you view yourself.
And how you feel about yourself. Whenever you’re facing conflict. The most masculine thing that you can do is not too passive and suck it up. But to speak up and to actually say something about it.
Unattractive men tend to handle conflict by being overly aggressive or by getting really angry. And these are the wrong ways to handle it, whenever you speak up.
The best way to do it is to speak up in a casual not too serious tone. And to use a tone of voice that implies that it’s really not that big a deal. But something needed to be said about it.
For the guy who tripped over your new shoes. Something as simple as speaking up to tell him to watch where he’s going is more than enough to assert yourself while at the same time not being too aggressive or doing something stupid like trying to fight the guy.
Imagine somebody cuts you in line. What do you do? Do you just stand there and act like it never happened. That’s exactly what many guys do. The most powerful thing that you can do in any of these situations.
Is to speak up and call that person out on exactly what they did. Now the thing is a lot of times when another person disrespects us. They don’t even know that they are doing something wrong.
The guy who cut you in line. Might not have even known that there was a line, to begin with. And the guy who tripped over your shoes might have something wrong with his leg that caused them to trip over.
The real conflict that you want to watch out for involves people who are intentionally testing you to see. What they can get away with? The reality is that men test men and women test men all the time with a small amount of conflict to see how they will react.
And typically how it works is that if you show weakness or you choose to be passive. When you are initially tested. You will instantly be labeled as the guy who can be disrespected all the time without any consequences.
And this is precisely the type of guy that girls never find attractive and that other guys have no problem. Disrespect on a regular basis. One of the most attractive things that a man can do.
Is take on and handle conflict in a way that makes him come off. As intelligent, strong, and valuable. So the most alpha way that a man can handle conflict is not to be overly aggressive or angry.
And it’s also not being passive and just letting it happen. The most alpha way that a man can handle conflict is by speaking up and not letting other people disrespect him.
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