If you’ve never heard of the term choosing signals, what a choosing signal is. Is basically a sign that a girl gives off if she likes you.
So the opposite of a choosing signal, or a false choosing signal, is just a catchy term that describes hidden or not so hidden signals.
That girls give us men, that makes us think they like us or find us attractive. When they really don’t.
1) STARTING WITH.
Imagine you’re going about your day, and you notice a girl staring at you from a distance. After seeing this, you go talk to her, and to your surprise, she actually starts giving you a lot of attention and really seems into what you’re saying.
This happens all the time to us guys where a girl seems to be looking at us or focusing more attention on us.
That what seems normal, so we automatically think to ourselves. Well, this could only mean one thing. And that one thing, is that she like us or find us attractive.
One of the greatest and most common false choosing signals that girls regularly give us men, is attention.
But at the end of the day, attention alone does not mean anything. Girls give their dogs a lot of attention too. But that doesn’t mean they find their dogs attractive.
Just because a girl is willing to pay attention to what you’re saying, does not automatically mean that she likes you.
If a girl is looking at you from a distance a little bit more than usual. It could mean something - but it probably doesn’t.
Many guys don’t realize that most girls love attention, so sometimes when a girl is giving you attention. She is doing it because she wants something from you in return.
This could be something as simple as validation. So don’t think that just because a girl gives you some attention, whether it’s the flirty type of attention.
Or seeming like she’s interested in what you’re saying, that this girl is attracted to you - because she’s probably not.
2)AND
How many of us have had a girl who seemed, a little bit suggestive when she was around us?
If you’re at least a fairly - normal, average - looking guy, you will have encountered, probably more at a younger age.
A girl who chose to flirt with you - or a girl who acted really suggestive when she was around you. Many girls actually do this all the time in subtle ways that we don’t realize.
Sometimes they give us a certain look, and other times they will say some combination of words. That makes us think to ourselves.
Wow, this girl must like me because she’s flirting with you. But what if a girl flirting with you, actually means nothing at all?
As guys we tend to view the world with logic, so 1+2 must equal 3, where 1+2 is a girl flirting with us.
And 3, or the likely answer to the equation, is that said girl must find us attractive. But many times girls flirt with guys just for sport, or just for the purpose of knowing that they could seduce so if they really wanted to. And the guys do the same thing.
Many guys in general are easily impressed and easily seduced, and they are easily tricked. Into thinking a girl like them when she really doesn’t.
I used to know a guy named Kevin, and he was friends with a girl who was friends with a girl I was dating at the time.
And whenever the girl needed a ride home or needed free pizza or free food. She would call Kevin, and Kevin would drop anything he was doing to give her whatever he wanted.
In this situation, the girl was basically using suggestiveness. In the form of making Kevin think he had a chance with her.
In order to gain favors or other things she needed. This can go both ways, but I’m mentioning it because it’s an extreme example of what a guy might do.
When he is influenced by a false choosing signal. Just because a girl speaks or behaves in a way that suggests she likes you or thinks you’re desirable.
Does not always mean these things. When it comes to girls, if you hear hooves, it doesn’t always mean you should be looking for a horse.
Don’t forget that some people, not just girls, might have a hidden motive, and so things aren’t always as they appear to be.
3)AND
This is easily the most common false signal. That guys fall for all the time that makes them think a girl is interested in them, when she is not.
I can’t even count the number of time I’ve been talking to a girl, almost always at like a Starbucks or Chick filet, and the girl is so enthusiastic toward me.
That logically, there is no other explanation other than she must be deeply in love with me. But we’ve all been there, and it sucks when we attempt to act on this enthusiasm we’re getting by making a move.
Only to be immediately rejected with the , Oh, sorry, but I have a boy friend.
Or insert whatever rejection line you can think of here. Just because a girl is enthusiastic around you, or incredibly friendly, does not mean she finds you attractive, and it does not automatically mean she likes you.
She might actually like you, or she might actually find you handsome. But the odds are higher than she is simply doing her job.
And most girls when working their job are paid to be friendly. And they are being paid to be enthusiastic and make conversation with you.
Mistaking friendliness for attraction is one of the most common things we do as men. Because when we tell ourselves a girl likes us or that a girl is into us, it strokes our egos, which feels really, really good.
But based on personal experiences. I’ve always found that girls seem to be even better than men. At faking enthusiasm or faking friendliness, especially when they are at work.
And oftentimes this leads to guys dropping everything they are doing to give girl a car ride and free pizza. One of the greatest insights that I ever had about girls.
Is realizing that girls tend to be incredibly ambiguous by nature. Meaning they frequently give off mixed signals, even if they don’t mean to.
A lot of the reason why we as guys are always getting easily seduced by girls. Is because we view things from a very logical perspective, or from a 1+2=3 kind of way.
So when girls behave in a way that makes 1+2=4, this totally mystifies us and throws our brain into an almost trance-like state.
Because we don’t understand what going on? And it’s this ambiguous nature that constantly leaves us wondering if the signals she is giving off are legit.
Or maybe they aren’t signals at all. It’s this seemingly never ending puzzle of words and actions from girls that causes us to think they like us, when they really don’t.
Worst case scenario, we end up like Kevin, bringing some girl free pizzas every day and giving her free car rides everywhere.
And best case scenario, we waste a few minutes thinking the girl likes us, and then we realize we were totally wrong.
Some girls are just really flirty by nature, so flirting with you does not mean they like you. Some girls are just really friendly by nature, so being friendly does not mean they like you.
Some girls, and people in general, have hidden motives and simply want something that you have to give them. Whether it’s attention validation or all the above.
After times signals that the girls gives off that think they like us. The girl that is staring at you from across the mall might just be trying to figure out.
why you look so much like her ex-boyfriend, who she can’t stand, rather than for the reason that you and every other guy automatically starts thinking about.
These are 3 false choosing signals, that we as men, are far too guilty of falling for. And by recognizing them. We can avoid trying to cuff the girl at Starbucks, who wants nothing more than to give you coffee and send you on your way.
In previous blog, I’ve talked a lot about how it’s useful to know the sign’s and signals that a girl likes you. But how many times does your radar detector go off. When you’re driving by a car lot.
Or how many times have you been in a situation in life, where simply misinterpreting a sign. Or signal is the thing that got you into trouble. One of the most basic, most rookie mistakes that we can make as guys, is thinking a girl like us.
When she’s really just being nice, or just giving us attention or just being enthusiastic because it’s her job to do so. And with that said, until next time, thanks for reading…
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