“Every seduction has two elements that you must analyze and understand: first, yourself and what is seductive about you; and second, your target and the actions that will penetrate their defenses and create surrender.” – Robert Greene
Seduction starts off with who you are, and the way you are
expressing your seductive energy. Robert Greene forms nine types of seducers,
and in the end, finishing with an Anti-seducer. Let’s learn more about them.
Sirens – lure and tease:-
Sirens lure
their targets with their image and tease They are packed with sex appeal
and they are not afraid to show it.
Rakes will do everything for love:-
Rakes adore the opposite sex; they are willing to do
everything for it. With their infectious desire, they can draw their target
into a sensual moment where all time loses any meaning.
Ideal lovers are ideal partners in every situation:-
Ideal
lovers can adapt to a target’s mood, go along with it, find what’s missing in
their life, and provide that.
Making
themselves a perfect partner and ideal lover in every situation.
Dandies are all about the show:-
Dandies are all about presentation, striking, and full of
confidence they are people we admire and wish to be.
Naturals are taking their time:-
Naturals are very spontaneous and always open; they will take
their time and hold nothing back.
Coquettes love to be chased:-
Coquettes are self-sufficient and extremely narcissistic. Instead
of chasing Coquettes let themselves be chased.
Charmers know how to please:-
Charmers are very social creatures; they are very pleasant to
be around. They want and know how to please.
Charismatics have confidence and they are born with it:-
Charismatics have a great amount of unusual confidence. They create
an illusion that they are born this way, that this comes from inside them.
Stars are on center stage:-
Stars are constantly striving to put themselves on a pedestal,
they are about being an actor in great stories and dramas and always keeping
their distance, being untouchable.
Anti-seducers:-
Anti-seducers are those that have a main attribute of
insecurity, and when it’s combined with some other negative attribute, it
creates a personality that will always repel.
They are everything that seducers are not. Before continuing
to 24 rules for successful seduction, Greene gives out one important rule:
Never try to seduce your own type.
It’s a follow-through of a golden rule: Opposites attract.
“What will seduce a
person is an effort we expend on their behalf, showing how much we care, how
much they are worth.” – Robert Greene
24 Seduction Rules:-
Time to move to seduction rules.
Choosing
the right victim: - The right victims are those for whom
you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic.
Never rush into the waiting arms of the first person who seems
to like you. That is not seduction but insecurity.
Creating
a false sense of security: - Approach indirectly. To
move from friendship to love can win success without calling attention to
itself as a maneuver.
There is nothing more effective in seduction than making the
seduced think that they are the ones doing the seducing.
Send
Mixed Signals: - what is obvious and striking may attract
their attention at first, but that attention is often short-lived; in the long
run, ambiguity is much more potent. Be hard to figure out.
Appear
to be an object of desire: Create Triangles: - You
see a man alone, whom nobody talks to for any length of time, wandering around without company; isn’t there a kind of self-fulfilling
isolation about him?
Why is he alone, why is he avoided? There has to be a
reason.
Create a need, stir
anxiety and discontent: - People are always susceptible to being seduced,
because in fact everyone lacks a sense of completeness, and feels something missing
deep inside.
Bring their doubts and anxieties to the surface, and they can
be led and lured to follow you.
Master
the Art of Insinuation: - There is no known defense
against insinuation – the art of planting ideas in people’s minds.
By
dropping elusive hints that take root days later, even appearing to them as
their own idea. Make everything suggestive.
Enter
their spirit: - Play by their rules, enjoy what they
enjoy, and adapt yourself to their moods. In doing so, you will stroke their
deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses.
Create
Temptation: - As the serpent tempted Eve with the promise
of forbidden knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your targets that they
cannot control.
Find that weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has yet to be
realized, and hint that you can lead them toward it.
Keep them in suspense,
what comes next? – Behave in a way that leaves them wondering, what are you up
to?
Doing something they do not expect from you will give them a
delightful sense of spontaneity.
They will not be able to foresee what comes next.
Use
the Demonic power of worlds to sow confusion: -
Inflame people’s emotions with loaded phrases, flatter them, comfort their insecurities,
envelop them in fantasies, sweet words, and promises, and not only will they
listen to you, but they will also lose their will to resist you.
Pay
attention to detail: - The secret is in small things. People
mostly miss these things that are dead giveaways of certain feelings,
reactions, and likings.
Poeticize
your presence: - You can be dangerous, naughty, even somewhat
vulgar, depending on the tastes of your victim.
But never be ordinary or limited. In poetry (as opposed to
reality), anything is possible.
Disarm
Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability: - The
best way to cover your tracks is to make the other person feel superior and
stronger.
If you seem to be weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other
person, and unable to control yourself, you will make your actions look more
natural, less calculated.
Confuse
Desire and Reality-The Perfect illusion: -
Your task as a seducer is to bring some flesh and blood into someone’s fantasy
life by embodying a fantasy figure or creating a scenario resembling that
person’s dreams.
Isolate
the Victim: - Separate them from their environment physically,
emotionally, and mentally, so they can become further engrossed with you.
Prove
yourself: - Cleverly lead your victim into a crisis,
a moment of danger, or indirectly put them in an uncomfortable position, and
you can play the rescuer, the gallant Knight.
Effect
a Regression: - Encourage them to talk about their
childhood.
Don’t
take their words at face value, many events will be sugar-coated or dramatized,
but pay attention to the tone of voice, things they avoid or deny, or things
that make them emotional.
Also,
notice info about weaknesses and mental makeup.
Stir up the transgression
and taboo: - Making your targets feel that you are leading them past either
kind of limit is immensely seductive.
People yearn to explore their dark side.
Use
Spiritual Lures: - Everyone has doubts and insecurities -
about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality.
If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you
will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious.
Instead, lure them out of their insecurities by making them
focus on something sublime and spiritual:
a religious experience, a lofty work of art, the occult.
Mix
pleasure with pain: - Lure them in with focused attention,
then change direction, appearing suddenly uninterested.
Make them feel guilty and insecure. Even instigate a breakup,
subjecting them to emptiness and pain that will give you room to maneuver.
Give
them space to fall – the Pursuer is Pursued: -
Understand: a person’s willpower is
directly linked to their libido, their erotic desire.
When your victims are passively waiting for you, their erotic
level is low.
When they turn pursuer, getting involved in the process, brimming
with tension and anxiety, the temperature is raised.
Use
physical Lures: - while your cool, nonchalant air is
calming their minds and lowering their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and bearing
– oozing sex and desire - are getting under their skin, agitating their senses
and raising their temperature.
Master
the Art of the Bold move: - Your bold move should
have a theatrical quality. For example: - put out all of the candles but one.
Don’t let them into the bedroom at first. Remember: you are
creating a moment that must stand out from the regularity of daily life.
Beware
the after-effects: - Stir the pot, even if that means a
return to inflicting pain and pulling back. Never rely on your physical charms;
even beauty loses its appeal with repeated exposure.
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